This is a story about me and my struggle for happiness. You can come too - I can always use a willing companion.
Tuesday, 23 September 2008
On Not Getting What You Want
I didn't get the job. I am gutted. I've been in floods of tears. I cried myself to sleep and as I woke up I had this feeling that something was horribly wrong, before I even knew what it was, before I remembered.
I didn't get the job is that I performed poorly at interview. I performed poorly because I was sick.
My answers were vague and imcomplete. My mind kept going blank. I started wishing for the damn thing to be over. I was exhausted. I hadn't realised how much energy this would take.
Here are some learning points for myself re: Interviews.
1) Never go to an interview when you're sick - it's a waste of time!
2) Deal with anxiety by being prepared. Come up with a list of interview questions. Spend time preparing your answers and then practice with another person as interviewer (ideally in the same field) who can give you feedback on your performance.
3) Warm up by talking to someone before you get there.
4) Use formal language where possible - the vocabulary of your profession.
5) Smile, breathe and make good eye contact. Your performance is part of what you will be judged on. If there are a few of you with similar qualifications/ experience, this could make all the difference.
6) Get there early. You are going to be a bit nervous anyway - you don't need to be stressing about traffic or directions.
If the worst happens and you don't get the job, remember that you're not the only one to be hit by disappointment - it happens to all of us sometimes.
If this is what you really want, it won't matter too much that you didn't get it straight away. So what? Someone else got the job? Good for them. It will be your time before long.
Gently pick yourself up, gather strength and try again.
I have some simple life goals: 1) to be successful and satisfied in my career, earning well and enjoying my work 2) to get married to the lovely Ed, who is undisputedly the prince of my dreams and 3) to have a loving, healthy, harmonious family together